Let’s talk bullies. I know this is a worn out topic, but oddly the idea is like oil and water with too many minds. I am not a psychologist, nor am I perfectly exempt from this topic. That doesn’t mean I don’t make observations. Perhaps some of my observations are a little more on target than some would like to admit.
We experience bullies in all aspects of our lives from start to finish, and we are taught early on to ignore them. We are given reasons for their behavior that include things like jealousy and insecurity. There are plenty of athletes that are bullies. Certainly I have been jealous of people before. In fact, jealousy is a strong motivator. I am jealous of anyone who makes the podium because that is exactly where I want to be. My reaction is not to tear that person down though. Their success is my fuel.
I do not believe that a good person is someone who only ever thinks good things. That seems completely unrealistic. Our brains are powerful pieces of machinery with imaginations that create and destroy. I believe that a good person is someone who is selective with their thoughts. A good person thinks before they speak. A good person can identify a destructive thought or action and choose not to act on it.
These are all terribly cliche things to say, but they are only cliche because we have to keep saying them. Let’s be honest. We have all bullied a little, and some more than we care to count…. People aren’t perfect, and we aren’t all the same. This is what makes us human. Our ability to sort through our pools of thought is what makes us human. I don’t believe a bad person is bad because that is who they are. I think that too often it is easier to be bad, mean, hateful, jealous, greedy, etc. because to be otherwise is to admit pain.
I believe that people are born with an innate strength, but you must be brave to use that strength. My travels have shown me many harsh realities that make the behaviors of a bully laughable. It is fascinating that so many with less can express such great kindness. I know better than to tout this as a blanket statement, so I am only speaking from my experiences…
….And when I do meet negativity, I imagine a cool science fiction forcefield around me that deflects any ignorant or unkind thing fired my way. This includes things said behind my back. That’s an added feature I installed awhile back I have often been the brunt of a joke, or the excluded one. I don’t mind. You may waste your breath all you like. I choose what information I absorb because I dare to, but that’s just my canoe sense.